James the Food Slayer: Olive Garden

Last night Mr. Clougherty and I got together for our monthly dinner (aka The Dinner Series). We usually meet the last Thursday of every month but with Kevin going to the beach next week, we moved it up a week. Thus, I have the opportunity to attend Greensburg Night Market next week. Hopefully, the heat won’t be an issue.

It was also my birthday dinner. Last year, amidst the haze from the wildfire smoke, I decided on Burgatory. We’ve always had success there and have never been disappointed. This year, I decided on the Olive Garden for where I wanted to eat.

The Olive Garden has a history for me. The Greensburg location is one we’ve eaten at many times when we celebrated Great Grandma’s birthday. We always had a big group and we always had to wait for a table. It was usually on a Sunday that we met but the days varied. Years later, I came here again for my birthday.

2020 during COVID my aunt and cousins treated me to a nice birthday meal as I celebrated the last year of my thirties. We had to order off of paper menus but we still had a good time. The next year, my fashionable sister and I got together and she helped me celebrate 40. I was blessed with a gift bag and good times talking to Sara. My “journey” was just beginning, changes were coming soon in my life other than turning 40, and it was the icing on the cake to a great holiday and birthday weekend.

Let’s go over last night’s experience and see if it matched up.

Food: There were definitely some amazing options on the menu. We reminded our server that it was my birthday so that I could get dessert. We got salad and breadsticks to start. Kevin ordered the spaghetti and I ordered the shrimp carbonara. Both were good but very filling. I probably would have benefitted more from taking some home and eating the rest at work. To cap off the meal, I got a slice of cheesecake. Overall: 4.5 (more on me, not the restaurant)

Service: As I walked in the door, I was greeted kindly by the hostess. I waited for Kevin as he arrived a few minutes after me. Our server was young and asked us how we were doing. He gave us time to decide what to order and was very professional. This establishment is pretty well-run and I was happy with the service I got last night. Overall: 5

Atmosphere: It was most certainly a fine dining experience, to say the least. I felt very relaxed and we were able to enjoy our dinner without a lot of noise or riffraff. We were seated in a nice section of the restaurant. The lighting was just right and not too hot. Overall: 5

Parking is plentiful but it fills up during the busy times. If you’re coming from the east, it’s not as hard to get there. Coming from my direction, you have to make a U-Turn on US 30 or turn around in Barnes and Noble or Eastgate so that does add a little bit of work in your arrival. But this won’t take away from my experience.

I recommend the Fettuccine Alfredo (or Chicken or Shrimp), Tour of Italy, and the Soup and Salad.

Overall Grade: 4.7

Handing off the Gavel

The countdown to my summer vacation just got real! Eight more hours of work and I am officially off until July 1. But before that, we had our last Greensburg Toastmasters meeting of the year and it was a good one.

We heard two ice breakers (one from a new member and one from a DTM starting a new path). Our Table Topics session was a lot of fun, as we did haikus that centered around summer. The evaluations were very helpful. You might say one of the ice breakers could have been an ice cream breaker (because it mentioned the Meadows). The other ice breaker taught me that even as you complete the highest achievement in Toastmasters, it’s all right to go for another and to ask for help when needed.

I went over my three officer roles I’ll be serving in 24-25 in yesterday’s blog. Today, I’ll go over what the other officer roles entail. We have our officer list all set in Greensburg as well as in Laurel Highlands. We’re just looking for four new members by June 30 to make Distinguished in Greensburg.

Here are the other four officer roles that I didn’t mention yesterday.

Secretary—The Secretary is responsible for all club records, correspondence and taking minutes. The Secretary updates and distributes the current roster of paid members and keeps it current in World Headquarters files. The Secretary keeps a copy of the Club Constitution and the Standard Bylaws for clubs on file.

Treasurer—The job of the treasurer includes handling the club’s finances, including the collection of club dues and the payment of all bills. Twice annually, the Treasurer must notify members of dues collection and then collect club dues from each member (before March 31 and September 30).

In Greensburg, we’ve had the same treasurer since I joined. It’s helpful to have a background in finance or accounting when performing this role, especially at the District level.

Sergeant at Arms—This person is responsible for club property management, meeting room preparation, and hospitality. Our SAA started the meeting and introduced the President. When I served at the District level in the early 2010s, I enjoyed introducing our Toastmaster for the events or sessions at our conferences. You could feel the confidence growing in my voice as I got up to the microphone with no hesitation at all. Too bad I couldn’t keep up that energy in some of my speeches I gave.

President–The club president is the team leader, the motivator, and the cheerleader.

The President is responsible for overall operation of the club. He or she presides at club and officer meetings, monitors the Distinguished Club Program progress and works closely with the area director to coordinate goals. The president can also access Base Camp to complete manager tasks.

Our meeting came to an end with plenty of time to spare. We had a guest tonight and he enjoyed the meeting. I think we landed a new member. While my goal of being distinguished was not met, it was still a good year for me serving as the President of the Greensburg club. My interest in the club was renewed last Spring after feeling discouraged in the pandemic years and having fallen off after getting my DTM in late 2019. Thus, I was excited to serve as President this year.

As I think about vacation, I’m excited about how I’m going to spend it. I don’t have everything set in stone yet. I do know I’m going to a Toastmasters meeting on Monday and then taking a drive up to Slippery Rock afterwards. Friday, I have plans to shop at Tanger and then make a Market District run. I’ll either be in Robinson or South Hills. The weekends will bookend all the fun that is coming up, with club officer training on Saturday and a graduation party on Sunday. The following Sunday is my birthday.

It’ll be worth it to get away from work for the next week. It’s a few days early, but here’s to 43, my Polamalu Birthday!

Defining my new roles for 2024-25

Tonight is our final meeting for the Toastmasters year, which ends on June 30. In tonight’s blog however, I’ll talk about the roles I am taking on for next year.

At the end of tonight’s Greensburg meeting, I’ll hand off the gavel to our new President and hope to get a few pictures of our new officers for the upcoming Toastmasters year. As incoming Vice President Education, I will also plan our next meeting, which is scheduled for July 3.

It’s not my first rodeo in this officer role but it sure seems like it sometimes. The Vice President Education role is the most important role in the club, even more so than President. My job is to record progress of our members when they complete a project or path, keep track of where we stand in the Distinguished Club program, and as I alluded to earlier, planning meetings.

In Laurel Highlands, I’ll be taking on the roles of Vice President Membership and Vice President Public Relations. I’ll reach out to those interested in coming to a meeting, and have applications ready for those who want to join our club. I’ll also put together a packet for guests who come to our meetings so they can learn more about Toastmasters. As Vice President Public Relations, it’s my job to market Toastmasters to the local community and keep the website running.

Even though I’ve held these offices before, I’m going in green and know that I can always ask for help when and where needed.

I’ve been with Toastmasters since 2011. The person that joined on the first day of June thirteen years ago is not the same person who is finishing their Presidency on the nineteenth day of June in 2024. I’m looking at these roles differently than I did as a relatively new Toastmaster.

In 2011, my heart was still focused on going back to school, not caring about starting over or the amount of student loan debt I’d have to pay back at the end of my studies. It took a while, but I finally let go of my past and moved away from what was holding me back. I no longer had an interest in going back to school and actually found out I enjoy working and making money.

I got my Distinguished Toastmaster, started a blog, embarked on my fashion journey (my way of coming out), and began a new career. Toastmasters still piques my interest, despite the changes I’ve made.

If you like something, you’ll find a way to fit it in and make it work for you.

Milestone

Today is a day to celebrate, just as it will be in a few days and on Saturday at Club Officer Training.

I’ve been putting content on this blog since November 2019. I didn’t know what was going to happen a few months later, no one did. That didn’t diminish my hopes and dreams. Instead of growing the platform too quickly as I did, I look back on 2020 and realize that I could have used my platform to reach out to a world that was hurting. It would have quite a start for this new blogger.

Too big to fail was a phrase we heard too much of back in the Great Recession. At one time, chains built too many stores too quick, and then realized they oversaturated themselves. This blog was just that early in 2020 before COVID brought it back down to earth. It also brought me down as I was just off the high of late 2019 (but I believe that fall from grace was coming). However, I was damned if I did, damned if I didn’t when I came back to WIS early that year after testing the waters of a new workplace. I finally left my old job late in 2021 because I knew I was ready and turning 40, I needed a change.

When you look at how much I’m writing this year and compare it to a couple of years ago, you ask yourself what the difference is. I didn’t have the technology would be the obvious answer but my cousins came through and gifted me with an awesome laptop. It was also a matter of how I was feeling. Did I regret some decisions I made the year before? Was my journey worth it since I felt I was hearing crickets? I’ve gone through my good days and bad days. I’m influenced by the opinions of others, be it family, friend, or famous person, but eventually what’s said doesn’t always stick. However, the recovery takes longer and, for me, is still going on. The people who think they’re helping you may inflict more damage upon you than the bully would themselves.

I’ve been on my “fashion journey” since 2021 (it’s more that than an LGBTQ journey). For far too long, I’ve relied on the opinions of others for approval and when I don’t hear it or read about it, I get discouraged. While the approval helps, I’m also not giving myself credit or loving myself enough. Even as I’ve blogged more this year, there are days I’m still sad because I feel I’m not good enough. I look to Facebook and Instagram for attention and when I don’t get it, I feel broken and discouraged. That hindered my enjoyment of the Spring Conference this past May.

But despite everything that has gone on in the world (and in my head), I’m still here and excited for what’s to come in the days ahead. Here’s to 600 blog posts and many more!

A Big Week Ahead

This week is going to be nuts. Let’s talk about why it’s going to be crazy.

It’s going to be hot. We have an excessive heat watch in effect until Friday. Plenty of time will be spent in the pool and staying hydrated and cool.

Starting today and up through the end of the week, temperatures will be in the mid 90s. When you factor in the humidity, the heat index will reach dangerous levels. Limit outdoor activities, stay cool and hydrated. Don’t be a statistic this week. I will be taking advantage of the free time I have by swimming or walking in a cool place (maybe do a couple of laps around the mall).

It’s a Toastmasters week. Wednesday is my last Greensburg meeting of the year At the end of the meeting, I’ll be handing off the gavel to our new President for the 2024-25 Toastmasters year. Saturday is club officer training, or TLI at Westmoreland County Community College.

Our Toastmasters year wraps up on June 30 and that means it’s crunch time for all clubs to meet the requirements for the Distinguished Club Program. Just one more member can make the difference between qualifying for the DCP and making President’s Distinguished.

I’ll be busy next year serving officer roles in both of my clubs and trying to lead both of them to success. I’ll be the Vice President Education in Greensburg, and at Laurel Highlands, I’ll serve as both the Vice President Membership and Public Relations.

I plan to visit Cranberry High Noon next Monday during my week long vacation from Giant Eagle, before heading up to Slippery Rock. I visited Johnstown online in April and will plan an in person visit (August/September) as well as do an online visit for the new Western Maryland club (July). My Spirit of Toastmasters is really making a comeback.

It’s my birthday week. Thursday night, I will celebrate my birthday at the Olive Garden. I’m looking forward to a great dinner and I plan to get a restaurant review out as well. I made sure to remind Mr. Clougherty that it’s my birthday so I can get some cake. I’ll be talking about some of my favorite dining experiences at the Olive Garden over the years in my next blog. We used to celebrate my Great Grandmother’s birthday there too.

Last year, in the haze of the Canadian Wildfire smoke and having recently decided to continue my fashion journey, we ate dinner at Burgatory. It’s an early birthdy dinner since Kevin is on vacation next week. Other stops this year in the Dinner Series include EDO Hibachi will be in July, as well as Kings which will likely be sometime in the fall.

It’s a milestone week. I say that for the blog as well as for Duolingo. I’ll be publishing my 600th post this week and Saturday will be my 800th day on Duolingo. I’ll have to celebrate with my Duolingo buddy sometime in the future. I’ll make sure that 600th post is something heartfelt.

It’s a week for amazing fashion. I’ll be slaying some nice outfits this week and into the weekend as I beat the heat and keep cool. I have something nice picked out for Thursday night when I go out for my birthday dinner, as well as for Saturday when I go to Summer TLI. Let’s hope that I have the confidence to rock them and not cave because I might worry that something might be said.

Time to slay this week and look forward to vacation next week!

Working 7 to get 10!

The countdown to my vacation has officially begun! I’ll work these next seven days up to Friday morning and then I’m off for the next ten days. It’s nice to now have two weeks off now, not to mention those weeks are paid. I went without that for almost 15 years even though I enjoyed what I was doing as well as travel and the friends that I made at my old job. While I’m working straight up to my week off, this isn’t the first time that it’s happened.

I went through stretches multiple times at WIS where I worked more than seven days in a row. Twice in 2016 (almost three times) did I work more than 11 days straight. Let’s go back to 2018 when I set a record for consecutive days worked without a day off at 13. This was in June and it was right before my vacation and my birthday. Not only was it a nearly two week stretch, I was also traveling to stores every day. Nothing new to me when I was used to it, but being at Giant Eagle for two and a half years now I realize how much time I had spent on the road.

Being on vacation since I started at Giant Eagle just feels a lot better than it used to. Maybe because it’s paid time off and having good benefits. My most memorable vacation back when I worked at WIS was Disney, hands down. That’s a vacation that you put on your bucket list. I’ve taken many Cape May trips, some better than others. Now that I’m done chasing my past and focusing on the present, things are a lot better for me.

In other news, I’ll be hitting some big milestones very soon. On this platform, I’ll be publishing my 600th blog post very soon. Look for it early next week and no, I didn’t hype this as much as my 500th in November. However, it’s still a big deal as I didn’t think I’d get there until well into Summer.

Saturday marks my 800th day on Duolingo (unless I miss a day between now and next Saturday which is highly doubtful). I discovered the app in 2018 and stuck with it for a short time before walking away, and getting a sad face from the mascot itself, Duo. Seriously does this bird identify as he/she/they? I came back in the Spring of 2022 and have literally missed a handful of days since, but have been able to maintain my long streak. I’m sticking to just French this month in Duolingo (with a little Math thrown in). Don’t know yet what the rest of summer will hold for me on the platform.

The end of this month will mark my 43rd trip around the sun. I unofficially will be calling it my Polamalu birthday.

Finally, Thursday night begins the Ligonier Night Market which runs monthly on the third Thursday through the Summer. I won’t be there this Thursday but I plan to make one or two at some point since that day is usually free for me. There’s a few restaurants I’d love to eat at which I can review for this platform.

With that, the countdown to vacation is officially at six days.

Getting Groomed for TLI!

The weather is heating up next week for the start of summer and that means it’s time to cool off with a dip in the pool. Morning lows in the 70s means the water will be warmer than it has been. For me, this incoming stretch of hot and humid weather also means it’s time for a haircut.

I’m getting a haircut not only because we are getting into summer but, because I’m also getting groomed for TLI next weekend (when my vacation starts). I want to look good for this event and no better way to do it than by getting a haircut and a massage. What better place to get it done than by going to Sport Clips?

I get my hair done just five minutes from home at the Sport Clips in the Sam’s Club Plaza. Sometimes I wait, sometimes I get taken immediately. All depends on the time of day. I always get the same cut and the “MVP” treatment which includes a haircut, hot towel, shampoo, and they always top it off with a nice massage. I leave there always pleased and come back again in three months. By the next time, I’ll be ready for a new cut just in time for Fall and pumpkin season.

Next week, I’ll be in vacation mode as I get ready for my week off which follows (the week of June 23-29). Before that, I’ll be celebrating my birthday at the Olive Garden with Mr. Clougherty (he’ll be away on our usual fourth Thursday so we’re doing dinner next week). Next Saturday as I mentioned earlier is our Summer Club Officer Training, or TLI. I’ll want to look nice for both occasions so I have a few outfits picked out.

When I ate at the Olive Garden for my 40th a few years ago with Sara, my fashion sense was just getting started. I wore a blazer but with a polo shirt. I have some a little nicer to wear under that blazer or cardigan now. With temperatures likely flirting with the 90 degree mark on Thursday, I might wear shorts and sandals. I also ate at the Olive Garden the year before I turned 40 with my cousins and Aunt Sue, but that was during COVID and with a limited disposable menu.

Last year’s Summer TLI was when I “went back”. I almost got rid of all my clothes and started over completely. I felt I was getting zero support in my journey and the negative press about TikTok transgender star Dylan Mulvaney really got to me. It was so bad I wanted to quit entirely. But that morning of Summer TLI, I got one of my Coach purses, put on one of my cute scarves, and set off to WCCC. I had a great day and I made a pact with myself not to change for anyone. Dana applauded my fashion sense and was impressed with how I’ve gone against status quo. So was Cassie who carried a nice bag herself from Michael Kors. I might be in the market for Kors myself as I’ve had my eye on a three-in-one bag in pink for a while now. Though, I’m always flexible.

I’ll see what I can put together for next Saturday. I’m thinking a red top and pair of jeans with my fake birkenstocks. Like the ensemble? Thanks, it’s Old Navy.

I have a few things planned for vacation so far. Club officer training and a graduation party on the first weekend. A few day trips during the week including a drive up to Slippery Rock and shopping at Tanger (and maybe somewhere in Pittsburgh). I’ll swim if the hot weather continues into vacation week and, work on my fitness routine. I want to try out a mobile coffee spot called Latte Lane. Of course, there’s also the Greensburg Night Market. I’ll cap off my vacation by celebrating my birthday on June 30 and get ready for the Fourth of July. I’ll also be finishing Harry Potter and the Half Blood Prince.

Taking On Some Big Roles in 2024

The year like no other that is 2024 continues to work its magic.

During the last few months of the Toastmasters year, we hold our officer elections for those interested in serving a role in our club next year. We took care of business in Greensburg at the beginning of May and just finalized our officer list. Last night, we elected new officers at Laurel Highlands Toastmasters.

Even as my schedule has changed in recent years, as I’ve changed jobs, I still want to be involved in Toastmasters. I enjoy going to meetings and visiting other clubs when I can. Since getting my DTM, I haven’t been consistent in my path and I am sporadic in giving speeches. Blame it on COVID and blame it on me giving more time to my blog. 2024 is a year like no other and I’m still dedicated to this organization.

At Greensburg, I’ll be the Vice President of Education in the new Toastmaster year beginning July 1. At Laurel Highlands, I’ll serve a dual role as Membership and Public Relations VP. Both clubs should keep me on my toes in 2024-2025. In addition to that, I’m also churning out content on my blog and this year will be a record year for content as I hit a milestone very soon.

As for last night’s meeting, we had a last minute change and decided to meet online. For the club that chartered hybrid in June of 2021, it’s rare to do a fully virtual meeting. However, the change worked out well and we had a great meeting. We heard Nick, our club president, give a professional speech on the lessons he learned from running. I enjoyed this speech and related to it because my cousin is also a runner. Ryan’s Table Topics centered around summer. Thankfully, warmer weather is coming and that helped justify those Table Topic questions. We ended the meeting with officer nominations and filled up our slate for the new Toastmasters year.

Finally, the new Western Maryland Toastmasters club had their test meeting a few weeks ago. A week later they chartered. Western Maryland Toastmasters meets on the second and fourth Thursday at 6:00 pm at the Allegany County Library in LaVale. This is the first Toastmasters club in Western Maryland in 30 years. Our District Historian Dana knows of all the past and present Toastmasters chapters in District 13 and I’m sure he’s mentioned Western MD in his travels (no pun intended). I’ll make an online visit myself at some point in the near future.

A Time Without Social Media and Mobile Phones 📱

Over the last two decades, it’s become apparent that social media has taken over the world. Facebook, YouTube, and MySpace started in 2003 (the year I started at Slippery Rock!). A few years later, enter Twitter (now X) which began after I finished college. As we begin a new decade, we are introduced to Instagram. The way we look for people and information is much different now than it was when I was growing up.

My first time on the internet was in early 1997 when we launched America Online on our Packard Bell. We had the coolest way to log in and that was through a Wishbone CD-ROM game. Eventually we moved on from that but what a great story to tell. You didn’t have social media sites on AOL, but you did have chat rooms and messenger if you wanted to talk to your friends without the use of a phone. If you had dial-up, good luck trying to make a call if you needed to or getting your kids to log off.

A lot of my time at HGA and Slippery Rock was spent on AOL Instant Messenger and the other various messenger sites on MSN and Yahoo. I was limited in high school but made up for it in college when I got my own computer. That’s either a good or bad thing. I didn’t find Facebook until late in my academic career when the social network was limited to college students only. Oh how it has evolved.

Mobile phones have changed with the times too. My first real cel phone was a Nokia phone from T-Mobile. I got it from a representative at the student union at Slippery Rock one afternoon in the winter of 2004. My phone has changed looks over the years. The keyboard one I had in 2010 was really cool. I got my first iPhone in 2013.

We’re always excited when we get our first phone or when we upgrade. But when the novelty wears off, it wears off.

With how much social media and mobile phones have evolved, we have information at the click of a finger. But is too much of a good thing really a good thing?

Now I’m not knocking social media, influencers, or the like. If you make your living on YouTube or “Insta”, then all the power to you. I want to know all your secrets for having a successful business and how you handle the algorithm when either it goes your way or it doesn’t. While it’s a fun hobby, like too much TV it can be harmful to our physical and mental health. Therefore, I’m looking for alternatives when it gets too crazy.

There are many ways to curtail your social media use and maintain your mental health when it gets out of hand. Here are a few of them.

I like to read books that help take me to a different place other than the present. Getting lost in one of the classics is always fun. In the past, I’ve read history-related books like Hamilton (before I knew it had become a popular musical). My dad had a book from an acclaimed local historian about The 1889 Johnstown Flood. I’ve found those books that help me understand great authors like Shakespeare. As I get ready to finish Harry Potter this summer, I’ll move on to something just as cool.

This requires the use of your phone or computer, but check out some educational or fun podcasts. I’m listening to rewatch podcasts and eventually want to find a food or local podcast so I’m balancing my listening. I’ve thought about starting my own podcast, eventually.

Go outside and enjoy life when the weather is nice. One of my hobbies used to be photography and I wouldn’t mind getting back into it again. When it gets hot next week, I’ll definitely make time to swim. The possibilities are endless.

Finally, go to a museum. I mentioned the book on Johnstown Flood. Take an afternoon and spend it at the Johnstown Flood museum. Now you also visit the Heritage and Discovery Center in the West End of town. It’s a great way to learn of the history of this melting pot and that’s it more than just a city that had more than one catastrophic flood. If you’re feeling lucky, check out the Flood memorial in South Fork.

Finally, a Fitness Blog!

Yesterday was a red letter day in the weather department, so I took advantage of the sunshine and got a walk in. I wanted to go to Hempfield Park but with an event going on (and they had attendents there so it had to be big), I had to improvise. Greensburg Salem High School wasn’t far away, so I went over to the neighboring elementary school and walked on the track down there. That worked out perfect for the time I had allotted.

I want to devote more time to my fitness journey, or at least I’m trying to. I think I came up with a good plan. On nights I work, I’ll give 30-45 minutes to whatever exercise I want to do (swimming, walking, cardio). 15 minutes if I’m at Planet Fitness doing strength training and the same for yoga or Pilates.

On nights when I work and, I can parlay this into the next morning as well, I can extend my time. Maybe an a hour and a half at the gym or outside and more time in the pool if I’m at home (if it finally warms up). One of my goals, and it’s not a hard one to achieve, is to walk both lakes at Twin Lakes. That equals almost five miles (4.8 to be exact). The week I take vacation, I may meet up with Rachel at her Planet Fitness in Johnstown since I have a card that allows me access to any Planet Fitness. I’ve done this before. This way we can work out together and one can spot the other if lifting is involved. I haven’t lifted in years so that might be interesting.

Last night we had a bonfire 🔥 in our backyard. With these cool nights, it was a perfect time for one. We had it up by the garden where we usually park our cars. On the menu was s’mores. One of these nights, I want to do mountain pies on the fire, either with fruit filling ( 🍒) or pizza toppings.

We used to have lots of fun at my Gram’s house when we all gathered together for a bonfire. We’d roast marshmallows or hot dogs and sit around the fire and laugh and just enjoy ourselves. Eventually the fire pit moved up in the woods behind my Grandma’s house. We called this path the Blueberry 🫐 Trail. It came down by Aunt Nan’s house. We had a lot of fun walking this trail and one time around Halloween we even made it spooky. A friend of the family thought it would be nice to scare us. My eight year old self didn’t know how to react to this but now I know it was all in good fun.

Not so fun was our camping out in the front yard one time. Some people can rough it in the great outdoors. I can’t (at least back then; maybe now I’d do better). I didn’t sleep well on the ground and that may have been the last time I’ve tried sleeping outdoors. Give me a hotel room with a big bed and a jacuzzi any day.

My cousin and her little family love the outdoors and camping. I love reading of her adventures on her blog. My aunt used to camp all the time as well, spending many summer and even Fall weekends at Shawnee.

What do you prefer, a house by the beach or a cabin in the woods?