Mental Health Series Coming Soon!

It’s a new year and my plan is to do less blogs. Instead of 15 or 16, I’m only doing between eight to twelve posts a month. I’m hoping less content will benefit me in the long run. While this month has been stagnant so far, I’m planning to take on a new series. This is a topic we need to learn more about, and I’m hoping to make the subject interesting. 

For the second half of January through the month of February, I’d like to jump in and talk about mental health. It’s a topic that is often overlooked, but I feel it is imperative that we educate ourselves on it. I got the inspiration for this upcoming blog series thinking about some of my own personal experiences. I also follow a page on Facebook. A friend of mine is a behavioral health teletherapist based out of Carmichaels in Greene County. She works with adults and teens living with past and present traumas, additions, and difficulties within relationships. 

In this new Mental Health Series (name change may happen but is to be determined), I want to focus on some of the things that I can control. In addition, I also want to write about some of the things out of our control. 

Milestone blogs are coming this year, and very soon I’ll be posting my 900th on this platform. In March, my 911th post will look back on the events of five years ago. That will also tie into this mental health series. Later in the year, I plan on celebrating by releasing my ultimate 1,000th post. That will be slated for the holidays.

End of an Era in Pittsburgh!

I’m weighing in on the events of the past week. The Steelers once again went one and done in their wild card loss to the Houston Texans Monday Night. Unlike most of the weekend games, this one wasn’t close at all.

Then, what happened Tuesday afternoon shocked the city and the NFL.

Unless you’re living under a rock, then you know the events that unfolded after Monday night’s Wild Card. The Pittsburgh Steelers were blown out by the Houston Texans. Two records fell. Pittsburgh lost a home game on Monday night (we don’t count 2020). Should it count since it’s a playoff game? That remains up for debate. In addition, Houston won a road game for the first time in their franchise’s short history. Can they win a divisional playoff game on Sunday when they face New England? We’ll see.

Tuesday, news broke of Mike Tomlin stepping down from the Steelers. This on the heels of the recent firing of John Harbaugh by the Baltimore Ravens. Thus, the true end of an era not only in Pittsburgh and Baltimore but also the NFL.

Yes, we all know about Mike Tomlin never finishing worse than 8-8 in his 19 years coaching the Steelers. Does that matter when the team played down to its competition or couldn’t win a postseason game the last nine years? It’s a shock to learn of his resignation, but it was a long time coming.

Pittsburgh has been known for staying consistent with its coaches. For Bill Cowher, that was a good thing as the Steelers struggled in the late 1990’s. Other teams would get rid of him, saying the game had passed him by. He got his Super Bowl towards the end of his coaching career, and it wasn’t the greatest Super Bowl performance either by his quarterback.

Other teams like the Jets have gone through 20 coaches in the same timeframe. The standard is the standard is a phrase that gets a bad rap because of Tomlin. In a blue collar town like Pittsburgh, it may hit differently because of the city’s industrial history. It’ll be interesting to see who replaces the longtime coach. I’d like to see an offensive mind and someone older, but Mr. Rooney (Art II) will stick with tradition I am sure.

Update: Whomever the new coach will be really plans to clean house. Not sure how true that is, but it may be a sign of major changes in the organization. Even though the regular season just ended, I’m not expecting too much of a miracle.

Mike Tomlin was hired by the Pittsburgh Steelers on January 22, 2007. The day before, the Chicago Bears and Indianapolis Colts won their respective conference championship games. They would both advance to Super Bowl XLI in two weeks on February 4. In the Winter of 2007, I was a little bit over a year removed from college. I was still trying to find my way, hoping a little bit of work experience would help. That Spring, I was unsuccessful at trying to find work in my field. I also spoke in front of a group at the Hiram G. Andrews Center about my time there.

This or That at Greensburg Toastmasters!

Wednesday night was our first Greensburg Toastmasters meeting of 2026. Our meeting was remote and we had a good turnout. The meeting had two speakers on the agenda, with an ice breaker speech being one of the projects.

The Table topics theme was This or That. Our Topicsmaster had a wheel of topics ready for us to spin. The questions were rather entertaining as were the answers. My topic was do I prefer the sun or the moon?

During this time of the year, when the weather is cold, wet, and most of the time overcast, the sun is a welcome sight. On my endeavors yesterday, it was most certainly appreciated. For January, it was also mild as it felt more like April. Don’t get used to it though as the second half of the weekend trends colder. It is winter after all.

On summer nights when the sun sets at 9 p.m. and it’s clear, the moon is beautiful to look at. It goes well with the stars that may be filling up the night sky. At least the days are longer with every passing day. Before you know it, we’ll be turning the clocks ahead.

Eight of us were in attendance. Not much business to discuss afterwards. District 13’s days are coming to an end as they merge with District 10 to form the new District 219. We’ll have contests to look forward to this Spring. We planning our upcoming meeting and then adjourned around 7:40pm.

Our next three meetings are January 21, February 4, and February 18.

Taking Up New Hobbies in 2026!

It’s a new year (that we’re about a week into now) and that means new hobbies that I can take on. Now, I want to continue writing in 2026, and the blog isn’t going away. I’ll just be doing less content. I posted an astounding 200 blogs in 2024, and just a little bit less in 2025 with a grand total of 166. But enough numbers for now.

I want to focus more on Toastmasters and my speaking projects. I don’t put as much time into preparing them as I should, and while note cards help, I’d like to eliminate that crutch 🩼. I also want to work on my physical fitness as well. I’m trying to make it to the gym 3-4 times a week, and not trying to limit myself to cardio. So far so good. When the weather gets warmer, I’d like to devote more time to being outside. I’d also like to pursue some new hobbies, out of my usual comfort zone. I’ll cover those momentarily.

As for my blog, I’m looking at 8-12 posts a month. For the year, I’m shooting for just over 100 posts. I’d like to end the year having achieved a major milestone for the platform. I’ll go from there. While it seems like it won’t be much content, it reminds the reader of thing.

Less is more.

My sister loves to crochet and make things with yarn 🧶. While knitting isn’t one of my strengths, I’d like to try my hand at some new crafts. I’d also like to try working on a few others. Over the last year, I’ve watched my sister make some cute creations, such as this octopus 🐙 that graces my desk. In addition to yarn, she also makes things with her Cricut (pronounced “cricket”)

Crafting runs in my family, as my Gram used to love making quilts. She also made t-shirts and sweatshirts using little paints, in addition to putting together other crafts. I had an NFL quilt on my bed that she gave me for Christmas my first year of college.

Looking back, I wish I’d have spent more time in the recreation area during my HGA years.

I’d like to work on my photography and culinary/baking skills, and learn to draw ✍️ and paint 🎨.

First Blog of 2026!

It’s back to reality this first week of January as the kids go back to school and the adults go back to work on Monday. The snow doesn’t seem too magical now and thus, the countdown to Spring has begun. Christmas has been coming down slowly in our house as decorations and lights came down yesterday. Today, the trees were put away and everything is back to normal. It’s never easy to go back after a long holiday break, but you know you’re ready anyway. 

This December was colder than average and we had more snow than the last two years. Just five years ago during COVID, we experienced a very white Christmas. This holiday was actually very mild. Therefore, 2020 comes out ahead in that department. The weekend will be cold, but we are going to experience a nice thaw this week. That should help make that transition back to school and to the office a little less painful.  

Providing my own feedback from Christmas, it was a good holiday. Not spectacular but not disastrous, either. I didn’t expect to have the first weekend of December off, but I took advantage of that small victory. All I really wanted was to be off for Winter TLI, and could have made the necessary adjustments if I had to work Saturday night. I was able to visit with everyone Christmas Eve and the later start helped. I did get my hopes up wondering if I would have had plans for Christmas Day but it worked itself out. I went to the hotel to visit at night and then had breakfast with my cousins Friday morning at Waffles INCaffeinated. 

I started my Christmas music listening early, keeping up with the Pittsburgh radio stations. While some of us wait until after Thanksgiving, others are ready November 1. I did well with the Christmas menu at my favorite coffee shop. I believe the final count was 11 times between November 8 and December 23 that I was at Cutie’s. In addition to Cutie’s, I’m going to visit the other local shops this winter (White Rabbit, Steep Mountain, and maybe Nico’s). My cousin and I will get together at Cutie’s at some point this winter, so I’m looking forward to that. Planning in advance may even drum up the idea of doing a coffee flight. 

I began celebrating early, having successful Christmas shopping trips, and doing everything else. Still, that FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) hung in the balance. While I love shopping in Pittsburgh, one missed opportunity was shopping at my local mall which holds its own with Ross Park Mall and South Hills Village. Going to Westmoreland Mall also could have resulted in a stop for dinner in Ligonier. I never got the opportunity to see the beautiful small town decorated for Christmas. 

I didn’t get to watch all the movies that I wanted to, and I could have read a few more books from the basket. Next Christmas, the plan is to make a checklist, and not to worry about being consumed by FOMO. One thing will always get skipped, and that’s OK.

With Christmas out of the way, it’s time to begin new routines. Now that I have my schedule for the week, that opens up gym time for me. Afternoon/evening on Sunday and Thursday, and morning on Monday and Friday. Those days will be adjusted if and when my schedule changes. The goal is to get into a routine of going three or four days a week. Easier said than done… most of the time.

Finally, I have been hinting at going back to church. I was going to go tonight and then just felt too tired. This week was difficult with the weather and also, getting over the holidays. I may watch the livestream on YouTube sometime tomorrow. For at least the next few months I’ll be visiting Community Church in Harrison City. My challenges to myself next week will be to get back into the Bible. Also, if I go to church in person next week, to talk to at least one or two people.

Last Blog of 2025!

On Tuesday, I blogged about some of the events that had the biggest impact on me in 2025. These ranged from Toastmasters events and clubs achieving success to work and my many visits to Cutie’s. But, one of the other things that made news was the anniversaries I’ve celebrated in my own personal life. 2025 marked 20 years since I graduated from Slippery Rock University. Also, this summer marked 25 years since I graduated high school. We would have had a reunion but unfortunately, due to other circumstances, that was cancelled. I had two nice weeks off from work this year, one during the summer and another in the middle of Fall. Also, for my aunt’s birthday we enjoyed a nice dinner at this restaurant in Jennerstown called The Fat Squirrel. 

During my second vacation in October:  

  • I was able to attend the family reunion at Laurel Hill
  • Attend a Toastmasters meeting in Johnstown
  • Enjoy Homecoming at Slippery Rock University.. 

For these iconic TV shows, 2025 was a time to celebrate!

  • The Office premiered 20 years ago on NBC
  • Gilmore Girls debuted 25 years ago on the WB network. It changed networks in 2006. 
  • Golden Girls graced our television sets for the first time 40 years ago on NBC. 

These shows have stood the test of time over the years. I’m quite surprised at how the younger generations have really enjoyed the Golden Girls. 

Looking ahead to the New Year this Thursday, I plan on doing some serious downsizing. I will make this my winter project, but I don’t plan on dragging it out. On my reading journey, I’m going to continue reading “Matriarch” throughout the month of January. 

2025 was Cutie’s heavy with many trips there. I’ll continue to support them, but I’m going to give the other shops my business as well. Like today, when I visited Caleese Coffee for the first time. I’ll be posting my review to social media. By the way, the new Valentine’s Day menu at Cutie’s drops on January 17. The first month of the year will see trips to Steep Mountain and White Rabbit, in addition to Cutie’s. 

Cutie’s had their outside Bible Study which began last spring and went through the summer. Saturday night, I am going to start off 2026 on the right foot and get back to regular church attendance. I also plan to get back in the Word as well.. I haven’t really been involved in the church since 2021, just before I left WIS to work at Giant Eagle. I have some different churches in mind. If I have a free Sunday morning at some point down the road, I may check out 4theCity church in Southwest Greensburg. 

As I just posted earlier, I will be reading Tina Knowles’ book “Matriarch” for the month of January. I read a little bit of the book this morning and when I went to Caleese this afternoon. “Meet Me at Luke’s”, I haven’t forgotten about you. I have a few chapters left in the book as well. The chapters are small and will take a day to read. I plan to finish the Gilmore Girls retrospective by the end of January.

Governor Josh Shapiro’s memoir, “Where We Keep The Light” is set to be released at the end of next month. I’m going to buy that sometime in February and it will be on my reading list by late Winter. Upon finishing “Matriarch”, I will start “On Air” which talks about NPR.. I’m looking at a February start on that book. 

As for my plans for the blog, I still plan on writing. But, expect less content than the last few years. The purpose of this is so that I can focus on other hobbies, in addition to Toastmasters and my fitness journey as well. I also want to take time to do new things I’ve not done before. The coming year is going to be one of new beginnings. 

How I’m ending this year is very fitting. I will have 888 blogs overall. I’m going to reach a milestone early in the year and a big one later in the year. Maybe for those milestones, it’s time to learn some web design skills to make stylishdtm.com stand out. 

Happy 2026!

Christmas 2025: A Look Back 

Christmas 2025 is starting to wrap up here. The presents have been put away and we’re eating up all the leftover food from our Christmas Eve party. New Year’s Eve is coming in just a few days and soon, we’ll be watching the ball drop and welcoming 2026.

It’s kind of scary to think about it, but at the same time I’m looking forward to starting anew. 

Without further ado, let’s look back at Christmas 2025. 

We had our family over for Christmas Eve and Mom worked hard putting together a nice spread. Lots of Christmas cookies, meatballs, and our signature turkey balls. We began later this time, having everybody over around 5 (compared to early in the afternoon last year). This helped me catch up on sleep. It was a better Christmas Eve party than last year. I moved around and talked to more people. Having the extra seating also helped. When it was all said and done, and all the dishes were cleaned and put away, Mom and I enjoyed Home Alone. 

Last weekend, I enjoyed my friend’s podcast on getting through the holidays. It’s not always magical nor is it fun for everyone. Routines are interrupted, visiting with everyone can feel overwhelming, etc. After listening to the pod, I shared my own holiday struggles that I’ve dealt with over the years. Liz’s guest was a Toastmaster from Johnstown, TJ. I’m grateful to be friends and Toastmasters with both of them. TJ shared his story as well as his autism journey, and we have some things in common. One of those is that we both attended the Hiram G. Andrews Center. The interview and podcast were very informative. 

While I’ve done well when it came to Christmas movies and music, there was still that FOMO hanging over my head (Fear Of Missing Out). 

Christmas Day came, and I stayed home this year. Instead of going to my friend’s house, I hung out with the family and watched “The Year Without A Santa Claus”. Rankin Bass had some great Christmas specials throughout the 1960’s and 1970’s including Frosty the Snowman and Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer. As I learned from the L Podcast, it’s OK to have your own traditions and take it easy. For me, one of those traditions is going to Pittsburgh to do Christmas shopping. I crashed from all excitement of Christmas Eve and Christmas Day but made time to stop at the hotel where my family was staying and visit with them. We would make plans to meet up the next morning for Waffles INCaffeinated, and that’s where I’ll close off the blog.

Yesterday, I wrapped up the holiday festivities by meeting my cousin for breakfast at Waffles INCaffeinated. We would have met at one of the local coffee shops in town but they were all closed. I was no stranger to this location as I had eaten here before. We all enjoyed a great breakfast. 

The service was excellent. Our server gave us time to order and was very patient and friendly. We didn’t have to wait for our food either. Rating: 5

The food was worth the money and I took the time to enjoy it. I had an ample amount of strawberries and bananas and could taste the cheesecake topping in the waffles. My breakfast was the Straw-ana Cheesecake Waffles. My cousin got the Chicken and Waffles and Mr. Katie got the Funky Monkey. I also got a Peppermint Latte. Our server came by to fill up our water and we had a giant bottle of syrup, if needed. Rating: 5

The atmosphere was just right. Not too loud and very relaxing. We could hear ourselves think and enjoy each other’s company. They still carry the PTL mugs that I got for Mom and I a few years ago (hers was a birthday present). Rating: 5

My Top Five of ’25!

Tonight is a recap of some of my best moments from the year that was 2025. It was a year that I was scared to enter because of what may happen. But for the most part, it turned out just fine. This countdown is different from previous ones, as I leave it unranked. 

First Fall Speech Contests in Eight Years!

The universe worked in my favor this year when it came to attending Toastmasters functions. I had the opportunity to attend speech contests in the Spring as the schedule gods worked in my favor. I was even able to help out at a few of them. The Spring Conference was in my plans, as well as the Fall Symposium in October. We had our first Fall speech contests since 2017 when the District held Table Topics and Humorous Speech Contests. At the Fall Symposium, I served as a Sergeant at Arms for Table Topics. 

Rite Aid, Joann Fabrics Close their Doors!

Rite Aid filed for bankruptcy in 2023 and closed some of their stores in the Pittsburgh area. One of those was the Greensburg location across from Walmart that will soon be a Sheetz. This year, the company closed all of its remaining stores. For rural areas where a pharmacy is nowhere near to be found, this poses a problem. Giant Eagle has stepped in and picked up a lot of the prescriptions. They’ve also opened a few standalone pharmacy locations in the Pittsburgh area.

Other chains like JoAnn Fabrics and Party City have also done the same. For craft enthusiasts, they’ll have to go to Michaels or Hobby Lobby. Why does this affect me? It really doesn’t, however these stores are a link to my past as I counted a volume of them when I worked for WIS.

New Contract Approved by Labor Union

In June, we voted on a new contract at work as our current one was set to expire at the end of the month. Coming from a job that didn’t have a union, this was my first time in a situation like this. Being a member of a union runs in my family. The contract was approved and it was in our favor. Vacations can’t be taken over the holidays, however. But that’s no issue for me.

Toastmasters Clubs Achieve Success!

I was proud to part of a Toastmasters club that was successful during the 2024-25 Toastmasters year. Laurel Highlands Toastmasters, started in 2021, was the first club to be founded as a hybrid club. Hybrid means that the club is in person and virtual. They achieved President’s Distinguished. Also getting high honors was Western Maryland Toastmasters, and they did it in their first year. In June, Country Roads Toastmasters was launched and they too have done well. All three clubs are part of the same area.

This is from last week’s blog, but I figured I’ll share it again. In the new year, my resolutions for Toastmasters are to:

  • Understanding the new Pathways enhancements. These additions bring me back to the manual days. We were required to give canned speeches for advanced leader and speaker awards. We’ll have to present those again to complete a level in our path.
  • Giving myself more time to prepare my speeches. This is a bad habit I’m guilty of. I commit to speaking and then I don’t put effort into preparing my speeches. Do I resort to note cards or cancel. I want my clubs to have a great agenda. Part of that success begins with me. 
  • Third, investing in equipment to aid in my online experience. I want to be more involved in doing more videos and become more confident behind the camera. A tripod would aid in that and it would help me take better pictures. That’s been lacking on the socials and I’d like to change that in 2026.

Time to close off the blog.

Cutie’s was my Go-to for Coffee in 2025!

Cutie’s Coffee Company made my top ten in 2024. It did so again in 2025. Even though I didn’t rank anything this year, Cutie’s is my unofficial number one. Greensburg has many great coffee shops (that I plan to visit in 2026). Great coffee (with amazing seasonal drinks), wonderful staff, and Bible study. The outdoor Bible Study went through its share of obstacles and, unfortunately, met a premature end for the season. However, they’re not giving up. Improving my walk with God is another New Year’s goal I have for the coming year.

Navigating Chaotic Holidays with Autism

Today I listened to an interesting episode of “The L Podcast.”

The podcast (hosted by a Toastmaster from Central PA) talked about to handle the holidays. It’s supposed to be a magic time, the most wonderful time of year. But for those who are neurodivergent, this time of year can be chaotic and stressful.

Being neurodivergent is defined as someone whose brain functions, learns, processes information, and perceives the world differently from what’s considered typical. Neurodivergent people encompass conditions like autism, ADHD, dyslexia, and others. These variations are viewed as natural differences, not deficits, within the broader concept of neurodiversity.

Throughout the podcast, TJ shared his journey living with autism and was diagnosed at a young age. Fun fact: He and I are not just members of Toastmasters. Both of us also attended the Commonwealth Technical Institute. But, our paths didn’t cross until we met in Toastmasters.

It’s supposed to be a magical time of year, but it carries a price tag. If you stick to a routine and that routine gets interrupted, it can have an impact on your mental health. You may not be able to handle social gatherings without feeling run down.

For me, this hit home many times. It’s not as hard for me now as it was in my late teens and 20’s. I’ve had my moments where I’ve had to be by myself at family gatherings. Sometimes, this felt worse than being made fun of when I was younger.

Some people may have emotional weight to carry during the holidays, such as the loss of a friend or a loved one. Loneliness is another one of the feelings I’ve dealt with. I want to feel accepted in my journey and want to be my authentic self. That might explain why I’ve acted out at home sometimes.

During my college years was when I really felt a sense of being overwhelmed. I was happier to be by myself on weekends at HGA and couldn’t wait to go back after the holiday. I’ve also argued with friends and those uneasy feelings carried over into the season. It doesn’t end well when you have that anger bottled up. A great example of this happening would be in 2002 and 2012. It was bad during COVID too, but nowhere near those earlier years.

The podcast is 25 minutes and very informative. I’ll end the blog with a quite from TJ.

“Be true to yourself, because at the end of the day, you should be proud of who you are”. –T.J. Rose

It’s a Wrap on Christmas Shopping!

It’s time to sit back and count down to Christmas. I’ve officially wrapped up shopping for the holiday, finishing up yesterday afternoon. It wasn’t hard to wrap the last few presents this morning. All I needed was some gift bags and some tissue paper. Those bags from previous Christmases sure come in handy!

During the season, I’ve listened to plenty of holiday tunes. My playlist has been set to Christmas since November. This morning as I put the finishing touches on gift wrapping, I enjoyed some Pentatonix. But, the holidays can sometimes feel overwhelming. For me, I’m guilty of being influenced by the media and worried I’ll succumb to the FOMO. That stands for Fear Of Missing Out. This applies to Christmas music and movies as well. Nothing’s perfect and I’m going to miss out anyways. It’s OK to take a break and I did that yesterday morning. 

I will be listening to a holiday podcast this weekend on being overwhelmed during the holidays. It’s hosted by a friend of mine in the Allegheny Mountains Toastmasters club.

A Cute Christmas Drink hits the spot on a mild December morning

Thursday morning I ventured out to the gym. Afterwards, I made a rare Thursday morning visit to Cutie’s. Usually I’m asleep at 10AM on a Thursday as I always work the night before. But I took advantage of the two days off to treat myself. After having a Peppermint Mocha Cold Brew, I followed up my visit on Tuesday with a Frosted Gingerbread Latte on Thursday. If this was my second time having this drink, a little encore never hurts. The sun and mild temperatures made the drive worth it. 

I still have a few trips planned before Christmas Eve, It’s been fun ordering from the Cutie Christmas menu as well. I’ll end the 2025 holiday season the way I began 2024, with a Chestnut Praline Latte. 

Down to the Final Week before Christmas

Monday night will be the finale for the Holiday Baking Championship. It’s down to the final five bakers. It’s been an interesting season, even though splitting the twelve contestants into teams is a bit much. This is my fifth year watching the show and it gives me something to look forward to every November. I’ll be watching to see who wins but I beg to ask the question:

Has this show jumped the shark if it’s official that Duff Goldman isn’t coming back as a judge?

Last night while Annabelle was at her choral concert, I enjoyed A Christmas Story. This morning, I watched the sequel. I enjoyed it for the memories of the classic film that preceded it, and because some of the original characters (the children) were in it. Also, at the end, I liked the arc for one of the characters from the 1983 movie. I even completed the Peter Billingsley trifecta, if you count his small part in Elf. 

The snow falling outside left a mere dusting this morning, but it added a nice element as I was relaxing indoors. 

Christmas preparation all done meant it was time to take it easy.