Rejection is a part of life. It’s a process that will hurt emotionally at the beginning but can be beneficial in the long run. Something better may be waiting for you.

Why didn’t I learn that about 15 years ago?

Tonight I’ll go back to a time when I dealt with rejection. Unfortunately there were a few times I let it break me instead of letting it help me grow.

Twenty years ago, during my senior year of high school, I was in the process of applying to colleges. I had a few in mind. One was Robert Morris. It had what I wanted in terms of a major and was close to home. But when we looked through the booklet and checked out the price, we balked at how expensive it was going to be. This really wasn’t rejection from the university itself but I was rejecting myself from attending here.

While it would have been feasible to stay home for two years attending WCCC, I attended school at Hiram G. Andrews Center (with plans to move on to the local community college). That was the plan and in the long run, it’s been one of the best decisions I made. It helped me to become independent and I had many life experiences during the first leg of my college run. One being that I learned to drive while at HGAC. I would then attend Slippery Rock after I completed my courses at the Community College. Things will work out the way they’re supported to.

I wish I learned that when it came to relationships.

While at Slippery Rock, I met a girl in my Campus Crusade chapter whom I took a liking to. We hooked up a few times during the Fall of 2003. We met at one of the mixers that CRU put together. She gave me a ride back to my dorm because it was on her way. Upon dropping me off, I knew our paths would cross again. Surely they did.

We saw a good bit of each other that fall. I learned that she was a senior education major getting ready to student teach on the spring. While preparing for her Praxis, I passed around a card for everyone in CRU to sign. While a kind gesture, it was obvious that I wanted something in return. I wanted a relationship with her. I was talked out of asking her out because it wasn’t the right time.

I attended her graduation in the Spring of 2004 with some of my friends. I gave her a gift while we were in the Student Union following commencement. A few weeks later I put my feelings for her in a letter. I waited the entire summer to hear back. When I got her return letter a week before, it wasn’t good. She turned me down. I should have seen it coming but at the time I was 22 and trapped in my own selfishness. She had her own plans after graduation and didn’t want to lead me on. I was hurt 😞 but should have thought about her own feelings. The last we saw of each other was in December of 2004 at a wedding in Butler for two of our CRU friends.

The same can be said looking for a job.

After college, I was putting applications in and applying for work in my field. I didn’t hear from many of those companies, plus I was also turned down due to lack of work experience. Even those companies that I interviewed at didn’t work out. Things just weren’t looking good for me early on in my job search. Plus it didn’t help that I was holding out for the perfect job.

I settled for menial work. It was a stepping stone but it was where I needed to start. Of course I’ve been at the same job now for 11 years and after so long, I’ve built a little work family where I am.

Lesson learned: Rejection is a part of life. Just learn to deal with it and keep moving.

Time to close off the blog with a Slippery Rock shoutout. The Robert M. Smith Student Center has been around since 2012 and is a beautiful building. I’ve been in there a few times as I’ve gone up for homecoming in the Fall. The waterfall is really nice to look at.

Remember to live your best life and be your best you. ROCK out because you are worth it. LOVE yourself every day and wow everyone with your SMILE. The weekend is almost here and contest season is underway in District 13. I’ll be in State College this Saturday for Area 22’s contest and will be the model speaker.

Happy almost Friday. Bye everyone. ❤️ you. 😘

Good evening. Stylish DTM here with another motivational blog. This is a subject that I know too much about and that is discouragement. Vanessa, thank you once again for speaking on this topic and others to help us feel encouraged.

Discouragement is a part of a life. A season in our lives that is almost like a rebuilding of sorts. It’s a blip on the radar of our life that can either help us grow or bring us down. How we handle that discouragement will shape our attitude towards things.

One of the most discouraging seasons of my life came following my graduation from Slippery Rock University beginning in 2006. That season lasted for quite a while.

I had my degrees from SRU and Community College. I thought I had it all together. But I learned the hard way that’s not how it works. I came out of college with my lone work experience being in Food Service working at Park Diner and part time at one of the dining halls on campus. I had no real job leads upon graduation. I was going into the real world with no clue what I was going to do with my life, and I was scared.

Job interviews with financial planners and life insurance companies went nowhere. I took civil service tests and once I held out for a state job, turning down part time work at UPS. That turned into an epic meltdown. Eventually I settled for a menial job at Kings Restaurant (after I turned down other menial work). I had to start somewhere but still that feeling of despair festered within me.

I felt like a failure and let those feelings of negativity take over me. Losing three loving family members, thinking of those I graduated with working in their field, and feeling ashamed of myself took its toll on me.

I had a brief reprieve the next year but by 2008, those feelings of discouragement returned. I couldn’t take working at Kings and didn’t care what it would take to get out of there. I actually gave thought to applying at California University of Pennsylvania to study something completely different. I almost forgot one of my biggest achievements, and that’s the fact that I graduated.

I am not a failure.

To fight discouragement, remember to celebrate yourself. Give yourself a pat on the back anytime you celebrate even the smallest achievements.

Take Patrick Star, for example. Spongebob tried to get him to handle even the simplest of tasks. You remember the episode. After so many tries he gets the jar open. The point is, cherish even the little victories.

Speak life and truth over your discouragement. You are not a failure. You may have messed up but you can’t let those mistakes define you.

Example I have here was that I did horrible on a test in one of my major courses at Slippery Rock. Everyone’s grades were bad and I let my bad grade consume me. Even my good friend was getting frustrated trying to calm me down.

Another time was when I thought I was going to fail one of my classes and not graduate. I let the thought of failing that class wreck my Friday night. I had a test that Monday and thought for sure that I was screwed. I got an A on that test when I got it back the next Friday.

For the longest time I was discouraged and didn’t want to accept my past for what it was. It took me several years after I graduated to realize that I was meant to be at Slippery Rock. I remember the day when it all came back to me. It was my friend’s memorial service. We attended the same church when I was a student at the Rock. After we were done and said our goodbyes, I took the time to walk around the campus and remember all the buildings where I had classes. I felt a weight being lifted off of me. It was a major turning point in my life.

I am not a failure.

Perhaps you’ve seen my mirror selfies that I posted on Facebook and in the blog. Limited resources. I do want to find someone who will snap my picture and do a legit photo shoot. I’m thinking Twin Lakes, Kennywood, Ligonier at the Diamond, or even Slippery Rock University. While most people liked my photos, I let a few who didn’t get to me. They gave me some choice words about what I was doing. They made me feel discouraged and embarrassed. I looked past those people and continued to do it regardless of those negative opinions.

Time to close off the blog by encouraging you to live your best life. Be your best you. ROCK out because you are worth it. When you’re feeling discouraged, don’t forget to laugh because laughter is the best medicine.

Don’t miss my blog on rejection tomorrow. I’ll go back in time for this one. Back to my Slippery Rock days.

Bye everyone. ❤️ you. 😘

Yesterday at the place where we have our Achievers meeting, the church held a soup 🍜 and chili 🌶 cook off. I arrived around 1, paid for my ticket, and treated myself to some great chili and soup made by the local Boy Scouts chapter. Some of my fellow Toastmasters joined in as well.

I treated myself to some wedding soup and taco soup as well as some Ramen. I tried some of the best chili recipes as well. The hot south of the border chili was the best. Very spicy but good. There was dessert to be had as well. Overall the Boy Scouts raised a lot of money and dished out a lot of chili. Reverend Tim, the minister of the church, and his wife ate a good bit too. I am grateful that he has provided his place of worship for us to use for our Achievers meetings once a month. We gave the church a donation for use of the building.

As for the meeting, we had three great speakers lined up. I served as Toastmaster. I rocked a nice outfit (black pants, black blazer and teal top with whiskey boots 👢).

Jim Teague spoke on some of the great concerts he attended (KISS, the Police, and Queen (with Adam Lambert)). I was quite impressed when he enjoyed Stewart Copeland over Sting when he and Michelle saw the Police in concert. I also learned that Adam Lambert did a great job performing on tour with Queen.

Charlie Wilson gave a speech he was preparing for the Area Contest in District 38. In it he referenced American Gothic. Charlie has excellent storytelling skills and he will be taking part in the Humorous and International Speech competitions in that District’s contests.

Fred Vornbrock taught us how to access the Achievers website in his Better Speaker Series presentation. It was very detailed and I learned a lot. I addressed the evaluator issue in McKeesport at their meeting. I ran it by him prior to Achievers on Sunday. He is giving a future presentation on how to give Effective Evaluations.

Our chapter will have some clout with four Greensburg members a part of Achievers. They’ll have some district clout as well with the incoming District Director being part of the club, as well as other incoming District Leaders. Patti will do a great job, I just know it. She’s building a great team and her and I really want to see the District grow. It can definitely happen.

I’m heading to Altoona Friday night and Patti and I know they are worthy of having multiple chapters. I will be in touch with Reverend Tim about holding a Speechcraft. He wants to see another club in the Blairsville area, one that is open to everyone.

Time to close off the blog with a shoutout to my favorite green and white school. This building has bred a lot of fine educators over the years. Slippery Rock has had the distinction of being an excellent teacher’s college. McKay, this blog and shoutout is for you. Credit goes to the person who snapped this picture.

Remember to live your best life. Be your best you. ROCK out because you are worth it. After my great run last fall, the future is looking as bright as the sun. Remember to show gratitude today and every day. Enjoy your Monday night and have a great Tuesday.

Bye everyone. ❤️ you 😘.

This week was one where most of my blogs were motivational. It’s just the way the tides turned for me.

Monday’s blog was about getting off your rear end and starting something you’ve put off for the longest time. For me, I talked about starting this blog. I also told my followers to never give up what it is they’re going for. One bad day can either make or break a dream.

That evening, I featured a picture of my two wonderful Toastmaster friends showing off their red Kate Spade bags. I put it in my blog at the request of Sarah (who looks great in red)

On Tuesday, I talked about ways you can motivate yourself, including getting out and exercising. It’s also important to have a morning routine and to be grateful. None of this will matter if you don’t take action. Remember, nothing changes if nothing changes.

Wednesday I got to spend time with my squad and they got a kick of out of my profile picture. The one where I rock my white pants, teal shirt, and leather jacket. In the blog, I discussed seven rules to live by. I also sent my 50th blog today.

Thursday at the McKeesport meeting, we discussed changes when it comes to giving speech evaluations. One of the members plans to give his speech on Effective Evaluations down the road to try and calm the rough waters.

Valentine’s Day went better than expected. I had a easy day at work and made good use of my holiday. I ate pizza, watched an episode of Gilmore Girls, and did some mix and match with my clothes. I also tried out some stylish poses. I had my DTM Swag going this week.

That’s my rewind for this week. If you have the day off, then more power to you. I’ll be going to State College this Saturday for the start of my contest season. We are going to make District 13 great next year and make Achievers a happening club as well as GREENSBURG.

Have a great night. ❤️ you. 😘

Contest season kicked off today in Oakdale and in the North Hills. Best of luck to the winners who are advancing to their Division Contests in Oakdale and Cranberry Township next month. I’ll be starting my rounds with the contests next Saturday as I head off to State College.

I spent part of my Saturday with Katie and Annabelle. We played some Super Mario Party on the Nintendo Switch. We had a hard fought game as our characters split the 16 mini games. Annabelle would have been pleased if she beat me 16-0. Being seven, she took losing not so well.

I also planned tomorrow’s agenda for Achievers. We have a great slate of speakers scheduled. We are trying to get a fire burning 🔥 and grow the membership base once again. We made Select Distinguished last year. I wanted to get us to President’s Distinguished but I took things for granted. Now, with the year more than halfway over, I’m going to take things a little more seriously now as I try to lead the club to success.

Our meeting place where we have our monthly Achievers meeting is holding a chili 🌶 and soup 🍜 cook off. I’m going to take part in that and donate some money to the church. I’m doing it as a way to thank Pastor Tim for letting us have the church. Our club meets at the United Presbyterian Church in Blairsville.

I have a nice stylish outfit put together for tomorrow’s meeting. We have a new member joining our chapter. Her name is Michelle Teague. She’s part of our Greensburg chapter. She serves as the Vice President Education. Along with her husband Jim, she is serving as co-chair for the upcoming Spring Conference. She also likes my blog and loves my stylish attire.

With Michelle joining the club, we will have a strong Greensburg connection in the chapter. I plan to renew in March to keep my membership going both in Greensburg and in Achievers. I’m proud that my home club has some clout in the advanced chapter.

Tonight I was being my best me as I served on the Front Line Ministry at Cornerstone. I help out in the Welcome Center. I greet everyone who comes into church and answer any questions that they may have. I greet them with a smile 😃 and make their day as they come and get fed God’s Word. I love our FLM crew and Alvin does a great job as our leader.

We wrapped up our Advice for Aliens series and were blessed with great music. Our worship team never ceases to amaze. Pastor Donn fed us well with a great sermon and plenty of scripture along the way. Can’t wait to learn of the next sermon series.

Time to close off the blog as I get ready to order my dinner at the Pourhouse. Busy night tonight and sometimes I just love the nightlife. It’s a Saturday night so why not?

Remember to live your best life. Be your best you. ROCK out because you are worth it. Make this coming week lovely and remember when life happens, coffee helps. Enjoy your Saturday night and drive safe.

Bye everyone. ❤️ you. 😚

Today was a good day. I was in Butler doing the Target. At first I wasn’t up for counting the store. I had horrific flashbacks of how bad Mayfield Heights went and had no desire to do a single Target in 2020. But I stayed strong and today went a lot better than I thought. We’ll see how well the Targets go this year.

Remember, the week after that Mayfield Heights started that great run that went through the holidays and all the way to the Super Bowl and beyond. To put it in a nutshell, I’ve done well since November.

During a lull in the action this morning, I discovered my Stylish DTM pose. When I do my mirror selfies maybe I’ll try out the pose for all of you.

I’ll be staying in this Valentines Day as I have a busy weekend planned. I’ll watch some Gilmore Girls on Netflix. I’m on Season Three, Rory’s senior year at Chilton. I could eat pizza while watching the show (Lorelai and Rory ate pizza while watching some movie). I have a movie in mind for tonight as well.

What’s happening this weekend? Well, I have my Front Line Ministry role tomorrow night at Cornerstone. I’ll be heading up the desk at the Welcome Center. I enjoy doing it and greeting everyone who walks in. Sunday I have my Toastmasters meeting at the United Presbyterian Church in Blairsville. We have an exciting meeting planned with four speakers scheduled. We are trying to get a fire 🔥 burning in our club and build membership back up. I met with them

A little later tonight I’m going to do some mirror selfies because I’m mixing and matching some V-neck tops with my white pants. That’s why this blog will be out after 7. I’ll attempt to get the Stylish DTM pose in there too.

My season starts next week. Contest season that is. All the club contests have wrapped up and we are now onto the Area portion. There are some going tomorrow and Thursday night. I’ll be traveling to State College for the Area 22 contest. I plan to spend the night in Altoona the night before.

The week after that I’ll be helping out at the Area 21 contest at Pitt Johnstown. The Area Director is my home club’s President. Jim Teague will be looking for help across the board. He’s likely going to tab me to volunteer as well. I might end up being chief judge. Before I head to Johnstown, I might have a coffee ☕️ date at White Rabbit 🐇 with my favorite people, my squad. #squadgoals

Here are those mirror selfies. I think these will make great summer outfits. I felt like rocking my brown leather jacket and trying out those stylish poses. Have at it.

Time to close off the blog. Best of luck to those participating in their respective contests tomorrow. My season will start next week. I’m attending all area contests in Division C and three of the four division contests. I might have plans for the 27th but we’ll see.

Live your best life. Be your best you. ROCK out because you are worth it. Don’t forget to laugh because laughter is the best medicine. I love sharing my life, giving shout-outs, and dressing nice for you. The weekend is here. Make it a great one 👍.

Bye everyone. ❤️ you.

Happy Wednesday. Stylish DTM here. I hope you’re enjoying the motivational blogs this week. On Monday, I told you to start that thing you’ve put off and yesterday I coaxed you to find ways to create motivation.

Today I’m going start the blog with some words of encouragement to lift you up and then give you seven rules to live by.

“You are going to do just fine”. If you’re having a bad week and everything that could go wrong has, you may feel like giving up. You just need to assure yourself that everything will be all right. Back in my Slippery Rock days, I gave a friend of mine some good words as she was getting ready to take her PRAXIS exam (the exam that education majors take to get certified. A month later during the holidays, she got her test back and she did great. There was nothing to worry about. It was just a test anyways. She thanked me for a doing a lot for her during that difficult time.

“Don’t Give Up, Don’t Ever Give Up”. The words of the late, great Jim Valvano, legendary North Carolina State basketball coach. People remember Valvano running up and down the court after NC State upset Houston in the 1983 NCAA Championship. People also remember Jimmy V for a memorable speech he gave while accepting the inaugural Arthur Ashe Courage and Humanitarian Award shortly before he died of cancer. Valvano announced the formation of the “V Foundation”, an organization dedicated to finding a cure for cancer and its motto: “Don’t give up. Don’t ever give up.”

These words might just make or break your dream. Now here are seven rules to live by that might just make or break your day.

Let It Go—You did bad on a test and know it’s going to ruin your semester. Your day ran long and you have to be up early the next day. You had a fight with your girlfriend or boyfriend. That all happened yesterday. Today you’re having a great day. Don’t let the bad events of Monday the 17th ruin your Tuesday the 18th.

Ignore Them—You enjoy updating or expanding your wardrobe and taking selfies 🤳 and posting them to social media. Someone tells you it’s a waste of time and it’s silly. Don’t listen to them, live the life that empowers you.

Give It Time—You and your best friend got into an argument. You worry that your longtime friendship may be over because of something you said. Eventually it will blow over and the two of you will hash it out. Both of you were in the wrong and your friendship matters more than some petty difference.

Don’t Compare—The only person you should try to beat is the person you were yesterday. Don’t spend your days, weeks, or months competing with that person. You don’t know their story. If you wasted your Wednesday trying to beat them, then on Thursday beat the person who tried to measure up to them (that’s you). Be better.

Stay Calm—I was recently named publications chair for my upcoming Spring conference. I have no clue what all is entailed, who my team is, or what the deadlines will be. It’s ok not to have everything figured out right now. With time and a little help from my conference chairs, I know that I’ll get there. I’ll have a new skill under my wing and I’ll be a fine chair.

It’s on You—Only you are in charge of your happiness. Not that person who tells you otherwise. They aren’t out for your best interests. They just want to fulfill a lost dream or impress those who don’t care anyways.

Smile—Even if you don’t want to be there, a change in attitude can change the course of your day and make it worthwhile. Life is short, enjoy it while you have it.

Time to close off the blog with some more encouraging words. Live your best life. Be your best you. ROCK out because you are worth it. Don’t forget to laugh because laughter is the best medicine. I hope you live by these seven rules and make the best of your day. It’s almost the weekend. Two more days plus, some of you may have a long weekend coming up with Presidents’ Day on Monday.

Bye everyone. ❤️ you.