Getting Back to Church!

Last night, I went back to church at Community in Harrison City for the second week in a row. Last week was the first time and I wanted to prove that this wasn’t a one week thing. This time, I felt more comfortable. I knew that last week wasn’t going to be an immediate bounce back after being away for an extended period of time.I used the Bible app on my phone to get the scripture. In the past, I always brought my Bible and I will do that again. We have the option of both and either one works, depending on your preference. The message last night, as it was the week before, was part of a series tied to the upcoming Presidential election. But it was something that the pastor said last week that I really needed to hear. “Who you vote for doesn’t define you”. He also talked about how people think their ideology to reign supreme over everyone.

Over the years, I felt I would be torn down for voting for the Democratic ticket. This all stems back to my college days. I was also having a hard time dealing with post-academic life. But I’ve ran into some people who go to church and lean more to the left, making me feel better about myself. I learn to ignore most social media now but the political ads can be so cruel, making me remember some of those people who used to bully me in the past over my views.

My goal when going to church is to talk to at least three people either before or after the service, taking the initiative to introduce myself. I did get coffee before the service (hello, Pumpkin Spice Latte) and pushed my Cutie’s visit back to sometime this week (either Tuesday or Thursday). Cherry Pie Chai for me this week and then the Maple Cutie Latte next week. Who plans their drink options in advance? I may be the first person I know to do this. I have met at least one person whom I attended church functions with in the past. I’ve also ran into someone who works at Giant Eagle.

The Saturday night service is very laid back and is just the right mix for me as I ease back into church. They also have communion every week. This was one of the churches suggested by my club President. I told her about my situation and why I hadn’t been attending regular services for the last three years, save for Christmas and a brief stretch in early 2023 at Cornerstone. One of these days I will check out a Sunday service and when I get established, come for dinner on Wednesday night. I’ll do my best to go to a Christmas Eve service, depending on my schedule.

A couple more factoids about my experience with the church to close off this blog post:

I go against the status quo of most Christians in my political views and lean to the left. I don’t need to say much more about this and last night’s sermon cleansed a lot of those wounds for me. However, I still get flustered at some of the stuff I read on social media. But after a while and some venting, it all blows over. People can be so vicious behind a computer screen though, as well as when your ideologies don’t align with theirs.

Case in point, JD Vance and Primanti Bros.

I started listening to contemporary Christian music late in my Hiram G. Andrews Center/Johnstown days. It continued into my time at Slippery Rock. Eventually, by the post-college days I felt obligated to listen to it because other people I went to church with were doing it too. I also went through a lot of regret in those early post-academia days (usually over stupid decisions I made in school) and always got into it with people over stupid stuff too.

Last night, I listened to an HD jazz station and on the way back, the Charlie Brown Halloween soundtrack (which fit perfectly as I was driving home and it was getting dark). I felt very comfortable and didn’t worry about whether I’d fit in or not.

Smiley, Turkey, and Toastmasters

Last night, I met Mr. Clougherty for dinner. While Kings and Primanti’s were good options, I decided on Eat’n Park by Westmoreland Mall. Let me count the reasons why.

Number one: It’s an easy ride for him and close to home. We used to meet at Kings in Delmont and sometimes in Murrysville back when he lived in Plum.

Number two: I’ve been on an Eat’n Park ride since buying the book on the history of the iconic Pittsburgh institution in August. I even showed him the book and he enjoyed it. Plus, buying this book went towards a great cause (Children’s Hospital).

Number three: It’s part of my history.

We met a little later than usual since Kevin coached the middle school swimmers until 5:15. We still had a great time this evening as we talked about the usual topics (swim team, the high school, and the presidential race). Both of us are ready for this race to be over. As Kevin read part of the book, he saw a picture of the Porch at Schenley and is inspired to go there sometime. For me, I want to talk my sister into going to Hello Bistro in Monroeville with me sometime.

For dinner, Kevin ordered the Pot Roast sandwich and I got my usual Country Fried Steak carrots and a baked potato. As I waited for Kevin, I drank a Chai tea (a good fall drink along with hot apple cider and yes, Pumpkin Spice anything). I concluded our visit by taking home a dozen Smiley Cookies.

The pumpkin spice and fall treats tour rolls on into October, but it’s never too early to think about the next big thing, and that would be the Turkey Sandwich and Dinner tour.

Last year, the Gobblerito from Mad Mex prevailed over the Primanti Bros. turkey sandwich and Getgo’s Pilgrim sub. I missed out on Eat’n Park’s fall/Thanksgiving features last year. This year, I plan on making a few trips out there (hoping the Cinnamon Apple Belgian Waffle is still on the breakfast menu at the end of October when I do my bloodwork).

My mouth watered at the sight of the Pittsburgh Turkey Sandwich in the menu. I can’t wait to try that as part of my Turkey tour. I also want to try their Turkey Dinner. The plan is to do a few visits, including breakfast. The dinner series wraps up after next month so I’m on my own for this one. I’ll go local for one or two, and I’d also like to venture into Pittsburgh too (Waterfront maybe). The Turkey Sandwich and Dinner tour begins November 1.

Finally, I had my officers meeting with our President and VP Public Relations last night. Since it was just the three of us, we didn’t have a quorum when it came to voting on issues related to the club. We’ll address those all on Wednesday at our club meeting. I’m doing the ice breaker speech for my new path as well. We hit on the Club Success plan a good bit at our meeting. I understand it a lot better than I did before our Summer TLI. I’m going to keep the goal sheet handy for our meetings. We also talked about technology and we are in the market for a microphone and a carrying case, so there’s the issue of that as well.

I am planning some Toastmasters visits in the next few months as well. I will finally nail down an online appearance at Bakery Square, as well as an in-person Cranberry High Noon visit (looking at 10/14). With Greensburg’s meetings scheduled to both be online in November, the plan for one of the Wednesdays is to attend the DuBois meeting and have a Toastmasters doubleheader night. I’ll look at a return to Bakery Square in December in person, and might take up Barb’s offer to attend the Johnstown Toastmasters Christmas party.

Feels Like Yesterday

Last night, I braved the rain (which we needed after a dry summer) and drove up to Johnstown to attend a Toastmasters meeting. This had been in the plans for me since I attended their online meeting back in April. I made my arrival a little before 6:30 and I was greeted warmly by the club. I even agreed to take on a role, talking about a personal victory that I had in my life. I would actually share three. This was the final segment before we adjourned.

That’s one of the things Johnstown does that I enjoy, along with the DTM download. This is where a member shares the best practices in a meeting. At our officer meeting tomorrow night, I will bring up my visit and talk about these and whether or not we can incorporate them into our agenda. With Greensburg having six DTM’s, why not talk about some of our things we do well in a meeting? TJ does an amazing job leading the Johnstown club as President (and representing our division at Division C Governor). Barb does an excellent job planning the upcoming meetings and, both kept us aware of the Base Camp outage that’s going to be occurring in October while the education program gets retooled.

As for the meeting, we had a great Toastmaster help us kick things off. Three amazing speakers were on the agenda. Barb talked about the importance of meetings and I even learned what the Cadillac of service dogs is. Cindi talked about plants and the GROW acronym she brought into the speech might get applied in a future speech of mine. It’s almost similar to the seasons I talked about in my Reflect on Your Path speech last Wednesday. Rachel (my Duolingo buddy) talked about a recent bad day she had and how one event can change how we think about that day. Barb’s table topic questions had us all laughing, as we tried to sell products from the advertisement of our choice. I tried to peddle cat litter (the club has some cat owners in it so it was an appropriate sell).

I can’t wax nostalgic about Johnstown without mentioning the Hiram G. Andrews Center. While I could have stayed home and gone to school at WCCC, my mom would have rather had me learn to be on my own. That’s why I attended HGA and eventually attended the local Community College. Even all of these years later, I still enjoy the city. Johnstown is always a nostalgia ride for me. Things may have changed, yet they still remain the same. Even though it’s been a quarter-century since I finished high school and started college, it still feels like yesterday. A day when I was a poor college student living off Ramen and microwavable Chef Boyardee pasta and free cafeteria food.

Driving up US 30 in the rain and fog past Ligonier and towards Jennerstown, up that mountain felt like old times. It reminded me of Columbus Day weekend in 2000 (my first year of college) when we drove up PA 271 and the snow was flying. That morning could have been a disaster but luckily, it was averted. What happened, you’re asking? I thought I left my keys at home.

Finally, yesterday was an anniversary of sorts for me. Five years ago, my gender nonconformity journey was born. It didn’t start that way, but it came to be. While it’s become its own thing now, it came to light on an overnight trip to Ashtabula.

My time at WIS saw some memorable trips during my time there. Twice in Marietta, that week in Kentucky, but none were more memorable than 2019. Chambersburg was relaxing; Erie was where I started the blog; and Mayfield Heights was forgettable. But Ashtabula was the most memorable. We went to dinner that night and someone decided to get all dressed up. Looking at “her” in her pink sundress, I felt very underdressed. Emily was one of the first to inspire me in my fashion journey because of her amazing fashion sense. Sara and Rae (my “sisters”) have had a hand in it too. The former became an innocent crush for me for the remainder of my time at WIS, even as we parted ways in 2021. When I told Maura and Ashley about my feelings a month later, they were very good listeners and understood me.

My gender nonconformity came to light in 2019 after years of being left in the dark. These feelings went on in my high school and college years and who knows how different things would be if I lived my best life then.

Fall ๐Ÿ‚ is Here!

Fall officially made its arrival yesterday morning at 8:43, as I was sound asleep. While the first day of autumn turned out sunny and warm (shades of 2019), change is on the way this week. Much needed rain is making its arrival as will be severe weather. Hereโ€™s my first day of Fall.

I got home from work and slept as I usually do, waking up around 1:30 and catching part of the Steeler game. Nice win by the Black and Gold in their home opener. As I usually do on Sundays, I spend an hour or so going to Cutieโ€™s and having coffee. Loving that Fall menu! Yesterday, I ordered a Banana Bread Chai and it was good. I saw two people sharing a Gilmore Girls flight (I want one so bad!). Future drink choice for me will include something Maple (Maple Cinnamon Roll and Maple Cutie sound perfect) as well as the Cherry ๐Ÿ’ Pie Chai. The latter is part of the flight that I mentioned. While I was at Cutieโ€™s, I did some reading while enjoying my coffee. Later, I looked over my photo book on our former President Barack Obama.

This weekend, my sister and niece were pet-sitting. They watched the little boxer puppy, Chance. We got to see him a few times this weekend. My folks aren’t pet people but they don’t mind other people’s pets. My niece loves dogs and enjoyed every minute that she had with Chance this weekend. She’ll be disappointed to part ways with him.

Last night, on the final evening of Summer, I went to church for the first time in a year and a half. I felt inclined to go because I was ready to and want to get in a regular routine. I’ll probably attend on Saturday night since I usually sleep in the morning on Sunday. I would have loved to attend the outdoor service at the festival this past weekend. I talked with my president after our meeting and shared my story (why I left the church after almost 20 years of attendance). I decided on Community Methodist in Harrison City. I’d been there before so I was no stranger to the church. The other option was Harrold Zion which also has a Saturday night service.

The serpvice was held in the cafe. Usually coffee is available but due to the weekend festival, the cafe was closed. I’ll go next week as well, not to enjoy coffee but also to get back into the Holy Spirit and show this wasn’t a one week thing. It did felt good to be there Saturday night but it’s still going to take some time.

I’ve been attending the Bible studies at Cutie’s and enjoying myself there. I even applied some of the message to my speech last week at my meeting. I have stuff to do to get ready for tomorrow, like maybe putting a speech together to give at the Johnstown meeting. Still, I’m hoping to get out there tonight. I’ll also be meeting Mr. Clougherty this week and showing him the Eat’n Park book.

Coincidentally, we will be having dinner at Eat’n Park.

I’m looking forward to this busy week and this upcoming season with everything going on. Next week, look for my preview of October as cooler weather hopefully makes its arrival and we start to see the leaves change. The tour continues and I have some fun things planned.

20 Years Later: Getting Ready for Life After College

I’m now in my second year now at SRU, and my fifth year in college overall. It’s time to start making plans for what I want to do with my life after I graduate. This isn’t a blog about what could’ve happened but a look back at one of the things I did while I was in the twilight years of my academic career.

The summer before I worked my first job at the Park Classic Diner as a Dishwasher, just minutes from my house. With little work experience under my belt, I was going to have to start somewhere, degree or no degree. This is why I can relate to McJuggernuggets in a way. Just as Jesse moped around and didn’t want to work at the farm, his uncle told him it could be a stepping stone to something bigger. Watching one of the videos a few times, it reminds me of what I was like around his age (23/24 in 2016). I was in my early 20s in 2004 so I had a lot to learn too, despite having years of education under me.

I registered for the WESTPacs job fair (held at the Monroeville Expo Mart) that November. I went down with a classmate the morning of the event. He was a senior and in the same boat I was. Our time in college was beginning to draw to a close. I tried driving for part of the trip (from Slippery Rock down to I-79). That came to an end rather quickly (humorous speech material). I hadn’t been behind the wheel since getting my driver’s license at HGA three years before, so I was a little rusty. Needless to say, it was a disaster but no accidents happened. I had a lot of growing up to do between this day and when I would graduate.

The job fair was a much different beast than the college transfer fair that I attended a few years prior, obviously. As this has been 20 years since, I forget whom all I spoke to in my field. But I remember Eat’n Park being there. I picked up some literature about the company and learned more about them. No matter how you slice it though, I was at the bottom of the barrel.

College was my safe space and in my late teens and early 20s, I’d have rather been alone in my dorm room than around loved ones (another story for another time). In a way I felt like Sheldon too (without the knowledge, though).

I’ve been taking the time to read my Eat’n Park book that I bought last month and I’m about halfway through it. Currently, I’m learning about the other ventures that Eat’n Park was involved with. Parkhurst Dining and Cura Hospitality were familiar to me during my later college years and Six Penn Kitchen just as I was finishing school. Hello Bistro and the Porch at Schenley (and later, Porch at Siena) were formed later. Six Penn Kitchen opened in the heart of Pittsburgh’s Cultural District in 2005 and thrived. It closed in early 2018. Six Penn never struck me as a place I’d want to work at after I graduated. I thought I would be guaranteed a good job in my field because of my degree, but alas, that never worked out. I do wish I’d have had a chance to eat there while it was downtown during its decade-plus run.

I spent a lot of time on the Eat’n Park Careers page in my last year of college to see if I could land a good job after graduation. That’s how the names Parkhurst and Cura rang a bell as I was reading the chapter this week. I’m also familiar with campus dining services because I worked in that industry during my time at Slippery Rock. I worked for AVI Foodsystems and only did so for a year, only working a few days a week. If I could go back and change things, I would have worked more during college and focused on that instead of counting down the days until I’d go back to school. I kind of regretted that when I began the post-college life.

I can’t change the past but, it would have really helped to make Eat’n Park (or any other place) a part time or summer job during the twilight of my high school years.

Maybe I’d have had a better attitude after college instead of feeling entitled.

It’s Great to be Back!

Sorry for the absence from the blog. It is nice to have some time away but I was ready to put up content once. It’s been a long couple of weeks between preparing a big speech and being busy and short-staffed at work. But it’s great to be back and I’m ready to kick this into high gear for Fall.

Here’s a quick recap of events so far this week. I visited Aroma Joe’s on Monday morning to try their coffee as part of my Pumpkin Spice/Fall Treats tour. Deja vu again tomorrow as I go again, this time in the drive-thru to try an iced pumpkin or a maple drink. Cutie’s Coffee trip coming this Monday (the 23rd) since it’s Bible Study.

My latest clothing order came Saturday, with some tops, a pair of jeans, and a couple of sweaters. I’ve been busy so haven’t yet tried them on but I will soon. I want to put together some outfits for next week including a Giant Eagle/Target run and a stop on the tour. Hopefully the weather begins to cool down soon so I can wear my sweaters. Also coming next week is dinner with Mr. Clougherty at Eat’n Park, where I’ll show off the book, and a visit to the Johnstown Toastmasters club.

Last night, I completed my Toastmasters path that I began in the summer of 2020. I did a very good job chronicling my five year journey since getting my Distinguished Toastmaster award in the Fall of 2019. I also didn’t limit the speech to just Toastmasters, but also my life in general. I highlighted the pandemic as well as the changes I made in my personal life. A few things that could have improved the speech would be to explain the three letter acronyms that are synonymous with our Toastmasters clubs. With a new member joining us, he will want to learn what these are and what they mean to Greensburg Toastmasters. We’re giving him a good start by centering Table Topics around the Moments of Truth. Also, instead of talking about the health scare or besides it, bring some of my favorite blog posts into the mix.

In the speech, I highlighted the different seasons of life that I dealt with as I started my path. Also, those I dealt with in my life due to COVID and career change. 2020 felt like a dirt season as I was planting seeds and getting rid of the fading crops of the 2010’s. That season transitioned into a pruning season in 2021 as I began to let go of old habits and attitudes, as well as toxic environments. The next couple of years were a combination of dry and harvest seasons (like Winter and Spring battling it out in March and April). Even in 2024, I had to do a little pruning by not having to rely on others’ opinions for happiness. But I think the harvest season has won out over the dry season.

Finally, I spoke with my club president about one of the things that I highlighted in my speech. I’ve been without a church home since 2021, and I explained to her how it all went down. She suggested a couple of churches I could look into, and these do have Saturday night services which works better for me. Going to Cutie’s for their Bible Study every two weeks has helped too.

After three years, I’m ready to go back.

Some Exciting News!

Despite a chaotic week at work last week, things werenโ€™t that bad. It was an emotional week because of 9/11 (obviously) but also it was the week that Gramma Gaffron died in 2006. That was a bad year as I lost loved ones and tried to adjust to post-academic life. The latter took me a long time to let go of, surprisingly.

It was made less chaotic as I attended a potluck dinner with my Toastmasters club. We caught up with a few of our members who had been taking a break and celebrated our couple who is moving east. Overall, a great night with a great spread.

Time Well Spent

This last week has been chaotic, to say the least. Between being short at work (we were down three people) and working up to the end of the night; and, preparing my reflection speech, Iโ€™ve been out of it. However, I did post some content including my most previous blog on 9/11.

Prepare for more content starting now and going up to Christmas ๐ŸŽ„.

Friday marked 18 years since Gramma Gaffron passed away. Iโ€™ll always remember our last summer together when she stayed at our house and I helped keep her company and take care of her. I wanted to do a blog post but couldnโ€™t get anything good together with the week being the way it was. In honor of her, weโ€™ve been watching Jeopardy! every night again. It was always a favorite of hers and we watched it with her when weโ€™d visit. Iโ€™ll always remember her laugh, how much she loved her family, and how she always let us think for ourselves. I wish she could have seen me driving (I didnโ€™t start until just after she died). Also, watching Barack Obama run for President and becoming the first African American commander in chief would have made her happy. Third, Iโ€™d definitely talk up Toastmasters with her.

Last night, a few of us from the Greensburg Toastmasters got together for a potluck dinner. The occasion was to celebrate two of our members who moving east. They’ll still be a part of the club but will be exclusively 100% virtual, like Greg (another member who is also remote for our meetings). We’ll miss having the Teagues in person as they always make our meetings fun and really helped with getting the technical stuff all taken care of. Fortunately, we have an awesome replacement in Mary Ellen, our club president, who is doing a wonderful job running the laptop during our meetings. Our Table Topics will center around the Moments of Truth #4: Program Planning and Meeting Organization. As for the spread, it was very good and we ate well. The sliders (pot roast and chicken marsala) were very tasty, as well as the potato salad and even the veggie tray and cookies. It was a great night to have an outdoor meal too as the nice September weather continues. However, much needed rain is in the forecast this week too.

The coffee tour continued on Friday as I went to Steep Mountain and had a Pumpkin Pie Matcha latte. It was good and I was happy to go out, even if only for an hour or two. I read a little bit of the next chapter in my Barack Obama book. Iโ€™ll get back to that and Kamalaโ€™s book this week as well. As for my drink, it was very good and had that pumpkin pie taste to it. Iโ€™ve been drinking pumpkin spice tea on occasion and it has a cinnamon flavor to it.

Coming up this week on my Pumpkin Spice and Fall Treats tour, Iโ€™ll be checking out a local drive thru coffee stop and buying more treats at Giant Eagle. Also, Iโ€™ll be visiting Target to look at their Fall goodies. I wonder if Christmas is up yet at some of these stores?

A Sad Day in America

Last year on my weekโ€™s vacation from Giant Eagle, one of the trips I took was to the Fligbt 93 National Memorial. My mom and I both went up that morning (it was a week after the actual 9/11) and were in awe of everything. Itโ€™s very humbling when you take it all in. We listened to the chimes and read about everything leading up to the the hours and minutes when the first plane hit the tower. If you havenโ€™t seen it yet, you should definitely check it out.

Iโ€™ve twice been to Shanksville where the plane crashed and have been near Quecreek where the mine rescue occurred.

My 9/11 story takes place not far from where Fligbt 93 had crashed. I was a college student attending classes at the local community college. I was in Math class that morning and when class ended is when I got word of what happened. The college was attached to the Hiram G. Andrews Center (where I resided). I went back to my dorm and watched news coverage in the lounge. Soon after, everyone was called to the cafeteria and learn about the events unfolding. It was a very sad day and a very humbling week.

Sporting events and life took a back seat that day and for the rest of the week. When the NFL season resumed a week later, everyone came together including those in New York and Washington. Many lives were lost that day and this otherwise random Tuesday in 2001 still goes down as one of the worst days in our countryโ€™s history.

Not many people are still alive who remembered where they were when Pearl Harbor was bombed. Some might recall what they were doing when the astronauts ๐Ÿ‘จโ€๐Ÿš€ landed on the moon ๐ŸŒ•. We all know where we were when the World Trade Center and Pentagon were hit and when the plane crashed in Somerset County.

That day changed our lives forever and that week put things into perspective for all of us.

Seasons

From now until Christmas, content will begin to increase on this blog. If you enjoy reading my posts, this will make you happy. But, it will be a mix of shorter and longer posts. Nevertheless, I’ll always have a lot to say.

Last night, Cutie’s Coffee held its bible study which runs every other week. I missed the last one to tend to a speech I was giving the next night at Laurel Highlands Toastmasters. But I was right back to it last night. The message covered the topic of “Seasons” and the speaker did an amazing job talking about the different seasons that we go through in life. She also gave us passages in the Bible to look up that related to them.

We all go through different seasons and no one’s journey is the same. I’m going to apply some of what I learned to next Wednesday’s “Reflect on your Path” speech at Greensburg Toastmasters. There were four seasons that the speaker discussed: dirt, pruning, dry, and harvest. I’ll put these use when talking about my path. In today’s blog, I’ll also describe how these seasons have applied to me as I’ve been on my fashion journey and, as I’ve transitioned over the last few years in life.